I was getting ready for work this morning and hopped onto YouTube as I often do to find something interesting to listen to. I enjoy Impact Theory and there was an old video* I'd watched a few years ago (not long after I had separated from my ex-husband) with Dr Joe Dispenza. For those of you who don't know him, he's a Neuroscientist, he holds a Bachelor of Science and is a Doctor of Chiropractic. He also has done a lot of Post Grad training in Neuorscience and a whole bunch of other stuff. Suffice to say, I believe a lot of what he has to say.
He spoke about how, if you let it, a bad mood can become a temperament, which, in time, can dictate your personality. And at an extreme level, how events, particularly traumatic events, can affect how we view our life. More importantly, how we perceive these events over the long term, can determine the person we become, our attitude to life and to put it simply, whether others see us as glass half full kind of gals, or glass half empty.
When I first listened to it, it really made me stop and think. Did I want to be defined by the events of the past couple of years? The lead up to our separation had been quite traumatic, financially and emotionally. I had been left having to sell our beautiful home by myself, with 3 boys to care for (and feed, which for those of you with sons, you'll know, is not an inexpensive feat!). For the first time in 30 years, I was renting again and facing the challenges associated with being a working, single mom. On top of that, there were other issues, which I don't need to bore you with, but suffice to say, I was a little stressed out.
While I listened to Dr Dispenza talk, about moods, temperament and personality, I thought, I am not going to let this one event define the rest of my life. I didn't want to be defined by what my ex-husband "did to me" and why I was in that situation. (And, of course, some of the responsibility had to fall at my feet too). At times, it wasn't easy, and even now, I still think about how things could have been, but I have gone on to be, the same I was before all this happened, a positive and happy person. One who is curious and keen to enjoy new experiences and not focus on the negative events of the past.
So, don't let your bad mood become your personality. Positive thinking is powerful, try to make it part of your everyday life.