“By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands—your own.”
—Mark Victor Hansen
My Top 5
Work hard at whatever it is you decide to do. The path that you take early in your 20s, will almost certainly determine how successful you will be in your 40s and 50s. If you feel you are starting over (and many of us face this hurdle after kids leaving home, getting burnt out from a huge career, or divorce), take the time to think about how you want to live your life, then work at it. And work it hard. Do something everyday to push yourself out of your comfort zone and although you may not see any changes in the short term, you can look back after a few months and think, yes, I can see a change and am starting to live my life, the way I want to.
Maybe this should be the number one rule as it cannot be stressed enough: understand how to manage your finances. There are really no excuses for not learning how to manage your budget and be financially independent. There are so many free blogs, YouTube videos, articles and podcasts out there, you can find out anything you want. If you still don't understand something, find someone who does and ask them to explain it to you. Please do not use the excuse that your partner has always managed your finances and you therefore can't do it yourself. PLEASE!!! You are smarter than that. Learn how to budget and save, understand how your superannuation works and while you can push yourself financially, always live within your means.
Plan for the future while ensuring you make time for yourself (me time) and your partner (together time). The last 18 months, as we have lived through COVID has been life changing for many; some good experiences and some not so good. However, the one thing that I think most people say, is that they have very little to look forward to. Not being able to plan a holiday or get togethers with family and friends, not being able to celebrate major milestones, like special birthdays, weddings or christenings has, for many, taken the fun out of life. However, it is important that we have a sense of purpose and ensure we enjoy, as best we can, everyday. Things you can do to enjoy life a little more each day? Plan and cook a nice dinner for you and your partner/family, read the books you've always wanted to read, spend a little more money than you usually would on a bottle of wine and savour every mouthful, do an in-house facial with a couple of friends or by yourself, and always, always, take the time to learn something new. Like most worthwhile things in life, planning takes time and effort, but it's worth it, so make it happen.
.Nurture your friendships. I can't stress this enough, you will need your girlfriends more than you can ever imagine.
And again, this could and probably should be point number one. Love yourself; if you don't, how can you expect anyone else to love you? If you don't, find out how, through podcasts, Ted Talks, YouTube videos, paying for professional therapy if you need to. Don't go through life blaming others for you not living your best life. One thing I find particularly hard to listen to is women who put themselves down. They will talk their friends up and talk themselves down. For some, this can be their way of creating rapport, but pointing out your faults to others is not an attractive trait. If this is you, stop it immediately. Love yourself, knowing that you are living your life in the best way you can.
Oh and one more thing, be sure to laugh everyday. Laughing out loud is seriously underrated. And it's contagious, so it not only gives you a natural high, but those around you too.